The Single Life

Building a Better Meme for LDS Singles

John Q. Singleton — Thu, 18 Nov 2004 14:17:00 -0700

At FHE Monday, some people were talking about LDS singles websites. It was a little disappointing hearing some people talk about how they didn't think it was worth the trouble of slogging through all the profiles looking for interesting people, because it took too long, and it was too hard to tell from a profile whether a person might be interesting. After a while, I realized that everybody was talking about the stodgy old granddaddy of LDS singles sites: LDS Singles Online. My comments about...

"By small and simple things..."

John Q. Singleton — Mon, 15 Nov 2004 15:20:00 -0700

Every once in a while, I catch a glimpse of the thin, thin line that divides bliss from catastrophy. Last night, a girl I dated a few years ago came up in conversation, and was I ever happy to still be single! "By small and simple things are great things brought to pass," says Alma. If you're not careful, small and simple things can bring terrible things to pass too.

One such thing is the small and simple difference between being fun and interesting, and being a raving lunatic. Or at least m...

Looking for Love on the Ski Slopes

John Q. Singleton — Thu, 04 Nov 2004 17:17:00 -0700

I went skiing at Brighton the other day. As I approached the lift line, I'd often hear someone calling out "single!" Some other "single" person would join them and they'd ride up the lift together. It reminded me of so called "speed dating", where groups of people get together and spend a few minutes in an intense one-one-one conversation with a member of the opposite sex, and then move on to the next person. Sometimes, you'll meet someone you'd like to get to know better and exchange numbers...

What is a "Date"?

John Q. Singleton — Tue, 26 Oct 2004 16:50:00 -0600

Last night at FHE, I noticed that Joe, who used to come all the time, wasn't there for the third week in a row. I voiced my observation to Alex, who said that he heard that Joe has been hanging out with a girl named Alicia a lot lately. Meredith overheard and asked whether they were dating or just hanging out, which lead to a long conversation about what the difference is between a date and hanging out, and how much it matters.

Questions that arose and were generally disagreed upon: If you h...

Clear and Pleasant Danger

John Q. Singleton — Tue, 07 Sep 2004 19:39:00 -0600

Back in July while I was camping, my buddy Alex found a new girlfriend. So far so good. The problem is that whenever we all hang out together, the chemistry between us seems to gell. I'm gellin' like a felon, at risk of stealing my buddy's girlfriend.

Honestly, I'd have to say that I think we're a better match than she is with him. If we were in high school, and had no serious long term intentions in our dating, that would be one thing, but post mission, is it wrong to recognize the fact tha...

Dating, Journals and New Years Resolutions

John Q. Singleton — Thu, 05 Aug 2004 08:40:00 -0600

The bad news is that I've already slacked off on my journal writing. The good news is that I'm going out on at least two dates a week, even though I'm not writing about all of them, so I can at least hope that I'm making progress on my New Journal's Resolution.

One trick I've discovered for helping to avoid slacking off on New Years Resolutions is to find every possible new year throughout the year, and make or renew resolutions at those times. The first is obviously January 1. But there are...

Please tell me not all women are this fickle!

John Q. Singleton — Thu, 22 Jul 2004 21:17:00 -0600

LDS SN News had a link to an article on Meridian Magazine chronicling the rapid changes to some girls list of the four guys she was most interested in. One day, the guy on the top of her list "spent way too much time talking about how there are too many fat girls in our ward." He dropped to fourth place (sheesh, just drop the guy completely if he's going to be such a schmo!). The next day he was an "alternate" at number five, and then four days later he was "cute and charming" and went back t...